please forgive me for submitting a video by Pastor Steven L. Anderson, Titled "God hates divorce", which I didn't watch all of before I sent it to my friends, public, Follow Christ, all men, women and children page I have and all other online accounts I have... I love how the truth is uncompromised by Steve but he showed he has no idea what it must be like to be a man being abused by a woman, or his wife.. he was very cold near the end about people having anger problems over thing their spouse might do to them and that any man who was to call the police on his wife, after she beats on him, must be weak and a wimp, and got serious issues... little does he understand that my husband, who has had much mercy on me in the past, from my violent temper outbursts that included hitting, screaming, throwing things, etc, regardless of what he might had been doing for me to "feel" provoked, had never called the police on me but would had been in the right if he was worried he might hurt me or leave and abandon me, or worried that if he didn't take what had dishing out, then i would leave him... but there was times, out of him being human, that he had to put his hands on me to get me to stop. there were times he put himself in my face, provoking me but never hit me... either way... if a man is facing this kind of abuse, whether he knew she was like this before marrying her or she became this way over time, regardless of why, any man who calls the cops for fear of hurting her back or that she wont quit or other major reasons, should never be downgraded... also the pastor picked on spouses using verbal excuse as a joke and that we should not be moved by being verbally abused... Yes, God does hate divorce but He knows we are not under the law, meaning that we have His mercy to seek out protection, whether that means going to a trusted Christian friends home, or a homeless shelter, or a family members home, or even in a tent in the woods, or just in an alley somewhere in down town... no one should ever laugh about this or mock others who have suffered these cruel things that spouses do to eachother... now, if the woman or man is completely virtuous, unmoved by mental chaos, and willing to stay, getting strength from God to endure, for the sake of that person changing or for the children, or for the feeling that they should stick it out for the cause of being godly, then that is great but it is their choice and not for them to judge those who are not able to endure these abuses... God revealed to me that he hates divorce but its also based on a godly couple marrying who are pleasing to Him and kind to oneanother... God is moved by really bad sins, like murdering children in the womb, then by someone stealing a loaf of bread and therefore, it is in our spiritual dna to hate for our temple and the spirit in us to suffer what is deeply damaging... pastor steven is a great preacher and thats not the problem but when you hear this message or if you have, please, please dont hate the whole message in itself... and when God made Adam and Eve, it was good... no sin... but God doesn't take marriage lightly, as we see these days and pastor steven will explain how this world just makes divorce seem like a cool thing or a normal thing based on reasons that should never justify divorce... we are all justified to go to hell in our sin, just as we find justification in the weakness of our flesh, but in Christ, one who is saved, then they should never feel that Christ doesn't care about what horror they may be going through... this goes for both the man and the woman... I grew up with abuse as a daily thing, watching my father beat my mother over nothing but also knowing, in my innocent mind, that what he was doing was wrong and i wish pastor steven would feel compelled to also give sermons, and maybe he has, to tell people how they must change for the sake of the spouses saftey, emotional health, physical and spiritual health... a child is just like God, for those children who aren't raised secular, like i was, but even though i wasn't being taught about Jesus, I, Just like all Gods children, have the ability to determine good from evil and i knew what my father, who can be forgiven of it, was doing... he was being wicked, selfish, hateful, resentful, lustful, prideful, sadistic, cruel and heartless, while my mother became paranoid, neglectful of me and my brother, extremely depressed, suicidal, etc... so if steven could really grasp how much damage is done by just ignoring the cruel problems of what others face, giving the spouse the feeling that they are being silly, as a man, for calling the cops, then this means he still hasn't either experienced it, lived it, or dealt with it and if he has then maybe he is trying to hard to be macho as a man, while, unfortunately, misleading men to feel that they should just take the beatings instead of calling the cops... but what if the man feels he is wrong for leaving her? then what? well, some men might end up beating her or even killing her out of rage or fear... some wives are stronger than their husbands but regardless, a man or woman, can only take so much... pastor steven did say that if its bad enough then a man should call the cops or a woman call the cops but he laughed and demeaned any man for doing so but he never did this as far as the woman goes... men, please don't pay attention to this from pastor steven if you watched the whole thing... if you are in Christ, or you are ready, now for the salvation of Christ, desiring to be His child, delivered from your sins and this world and eternal hell, then know that Christ would never pick on you.. God is compassionate and loving... I had the law laid on me soooo thick, back in 2011, that I had no compassion for anyone divorcing... i mean none... i had the law of God in me to the point that I didn't care if the woman was getting beat on or whatever... this is a gift but it was also confusing and a curse because I needed to have the grace of Christ infused in me over these things that I hated... i hated everything that was sin and I still do but, I still sin and so therefore, His grace showed me that I don't have to kill myself or shed my own blood to justify my sin, because Christ did it for me which means, you woman or man, do not have to justify your marriage and feel condemned or doomed for seeking help and safety..... this does not apply to anything except for severe or extreme verbal or phyical abuse and honestly, if you are just to sensative, and thats the way God made you for the time being and not able to deal with any physical or verbal abuse, then pray, go to church or seek somewhere safe to be until your spouse either changes for the better, and wants you back and does not divorce you or abandon you... but, the reality is, you must have a pure heart over your situation and not seeking anything but Gods counsel, with compassion for your spouse to change and be freed of evil, and you must be willing to stay completely to yourself, never committing adultery, or doing other sinful deeds, and being faithful to God, your body and your spouse... it may be 1 year, or 10 years before he or she may change but if you really feel this is best for you then thats understandable but it must be in these conditions with these attitudes... not because you want space, or freedom, or someone else, or to do whatever it is you want to do.. then God will not bless this and you may suffer worse because of the manipulative thoughts you have but are pretending to be to hurt to reconcile and be a couple again... i say this all out of love in Jesus name, and the experience that I suffered from myself (some things are to personal that i wont mention to the public or friends, unless its between me and another woman, for the sake of her understanding), and out of hope for all who are married, needing Jesus Christ, who is God, to be ruler over both of them, their Savior and following closely to Him, and knowing that if this is not the case, then your marriage is a scam... there is no such relationship between couple, if God is the center of it all